Change your phone number (if you can).
Change your name (if you can).
Move away (if you can, the further the better).
Make fun of his mother (if you can not realistically accomplish the first three).
Avoid places you hung out together.
Do not give him nor anyone else the satisfaction of a “crazy” reaction.
Realize that with some, you may be just simply cursed and stuck with maybe even forever.
Avoid all legal drama, sadly, these are always the legally dramatic.
Don’t trust anyone who knows him and be skeptical of advice from strangers.
Do whatever possible to avoid his leaching onto the one’s you love.
Distance yourself from traitors within your family and friends.
Protect your kid(s) as best you can.
Self-pampering is essential.
Living well is the best revenge.
Exercise to deal with the stress if you are forced to share your child with said person.
Do not, for any reason, believe anything this person tells you especially if he is psychologically abusive and/or insecure.
Do not bad mouth to your kids but do prepare your kids to be alone with this lovely and wonderful human being.
If your child is very young and there is a history of abuse and/or neglect and you have been abandoned by the “system” teach your child to scream bloody murder if he/she is in danger.
Don’t stop believing in karma, what goes around comes around, this can offer some peace during his toxicity.
Try to keep the faith that this too shall pass and maybe one day fail to repeat.
How to deal with a truly wretched co-parent and (sort-of) maintain your sanity.
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You are so sad Madeline, our family has tried to be kind and supportive. Nothing you claim is true! Karma will come back
To you .
Monica Hawes – you and your son are woman and child abusing users. You have no right to ruin my life and the life of my innocent child solely because I rejected you and your son’s poor, cruel, sadistic, sexist, chaotic and unhealthy lifestyle choices. If you all want to be a part of our lives so bad – change or move-on and let us go, it is truly that simple. He has had FOUR YEARS to get his act together and is only getting worse.
The timing of your comment is also highly suspect. Could you possibly be referring to the fact that I had to involve the local cops yesterday in order to get your son to take care of an outstanding bench warrant for a failure to appear two years ago before I allowed him to, once again, knowingly and maliciously use, abuse and endanger my child?
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I simply told him to clear up his warrant and than he may have his visit which is more than reasonable on my part. He, as usual, verbally assaulted me and threatened to steal Hazel if I did not give him what he wanted when he wanted it. Where did he learn this? The answer is simple – he is a bad man because he was raised by a very bad woman – YOU. All involved are monsters for allowing that to go on, knowingly and cruelly using and endangering my innocent child, there is no excuse. It is sad and pathetic that I have to mother an entitled psycho in addition to my own young child because of your failure to mother him well yourself.
Please, stop using the obviously broken family law and legal system in Albuquerque, NM to keep us trapped here against our will. We deserve to be happy and free and we all know your son can afford it financially. Stop coercing him. Move on with your pathetic life. You failed my family – HAZEL & MYSELF and are now simply embarrassing yourself. You clearly believe your forty-year-old son, Jonathan Avery Hawes, is your property, great, you can have him, but my daughter is not your property so stop treating her that way. Why do you continue to force your dysfunctional life on her? She does not want you nor your arrogant forty-year old boy, she made this clear as an infant. You are a pathetic, cruel wretch and I revel in your karma.